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This is Our Finest Hour? I Have a Dream? No, nothing like that. This is a speech of 2 words I heard the other day.I was in a hospital getting a chest x-ray, a prerequisite for surgery on my broken ankle. Its been two weeks since it happened, two weeks full of pain, change, and coping. Ive described how it happened, learned how to get around the house on crutches, visited doctors and labs, waited on x-rays, and asked neighbors to get the mail and groceries. Ive also been put through the pre-op battery of tests blood tests, EKGs, chest x-rays, and discussions with my doctor, who felt the best approach was surgery.In my EQ Alive! program, which trains and certifies EQ coaches, Ive participated in the weekly EQ Check In along with the students. We tell each other how we feel physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. We begin each teleclass that way, and listen closely to the answers. EQ competencies include emotional expression, and also Integrated Self, being in touch with all aspects of yourself. Most of all it means not engaging in the meaningless, How are you? Fine.In a shutdown and coping mode, I thought I was being realistic about how I was feeling. I said I was in pain. I said I was physically slow and the painkillers had dulled me mentally, and that spiritually things were the same as ever. What more was there to say? I never gave it a thought. So there I was in the hospital. Id been sent to the wrong place and walked about a mile on the crutches to find that out. I was accepted, however, thanks to the work of a nurse named Lupe with very high EQ who just pushed the order on through. And then, mercifully finally in a wheelchair, Id been wheeled to the x-ray waiting area and left in the hall. As I sat there, a woman on a stretcher was wheeled up. I could tell she was sick. Her hair hadnt been washed in a while and she had a nose tube for oxygen, and a tube in her arm. Her color didnt look good and she barely moved. She reminded me of my dad the last time I saw him in the hospital. She was accompanied by two women. The first one went over to sign papers, and the other one walked off down the hall.A technologist walked out toward the woman on the stretcher when I heard the speech that touched me so. I think she thought he was coming to take her into the x-ray room.Im afraid! she cried out.God love her, I thought. So am I! I tried to get out of my chair and go to her, but the technologist beat me to her. Speaking to her in her native tongue, Spanish, he rushed to her side, took her hand and started soothing her. Abuelita, he called her, little grandmother, a term of endearment. A nurse brought out a screen to give her privacy and she quieted. She quieted and I thought: Why is it so hard to get to Im afraid? Of course Id been afraid the whole time, from the moment I heard the bones turn in my ankle. I started repeating, Please dont let it be broken, please dont let it be broken. There was no way to tell, and I was left with pain and fear. Was it broken? Is this because my bones are getting old and this is just the beginning? Will this mean arthritis pain for the rest of my life? Will the insurance cover it? What on earth is my deductible? How can I ever manage this at home alone? Will it need surgery? General anesthesia? Will I survive it? Will they have to rebreak it like one neighbor says, and put in 6 screws like the other one says? What will happen? I shut all these things down and used words like tired and in pain, but at the core, yes, I was afraid. Fear of the unknown, and fear of being helpless and dependent.I was also afraid of the fantasized reactions of others, having come from a family of shame and blame. I think nothing will ever happen to me that I wont feel like I caused it and was a bad girl because of that. Words from an overwhelmed, shame-and-blame mother who saw everything as simply more work for her. Whatever caused the ankle to break, I shouldve known better, I shouldnt have done it, I shouldnt have been there, and I should never have let it happen as if I were omniscient and omnipotent. That means all-knowing and in control of everything in the world. It was family that taught intellectual words, not feelings. Old childhood fears. In line with, Whatever it is you fear has already happened.And at that particular moment in the hospital corridor, well you never know what will turn up on any chest x-ray, no matter why its required. Nor had the results of the EKG come in yet. What if I went in with a broken ankle and came out with a bypass? Or worse yet, out the back door on a stretcher. Its been known to happen. As J. Powell says in Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? emotions are not moral (good or bad). Feeling frustrated, or being annoyed, or experiencing fears and anger do not make one a good or bad person [a weak or strong person.] But this is theory. In our day-to-day lives most of us blame ourselves for our feelings. And if we judge them to be bad, or unacceptable to us in some way, we bury them.So there I sat in my wheelchair, silent and alone. And there was Abuelita, expressing her fear and getting comforted. Its an old lesson: People care. If we say were afraid we can be comforted. If we dont, we cant. All studies show that people do best who have a strong social support network, and if you dont say WHO you are and HOW you are, you arent getting the connection that sustains you. You remain alone in the presence of others, which is the loneliest youll ever be.And let me close with the words of the technologist who finally did my x-ray. Dianna was her name. She read the name of my company, Emotionally Intelligent Solutions, on the chart. Whats that, she said, Is that like Im to the point where I cant stand any of my co-workers any more and I think theyre dumb and ignorant and feel like Im about to explode,Yes, EQ is about that, too!The woman works two 16-hour days, physical and demanding (how on earth do you do that?) and has three children at home. I gave her my card. I hope shell call me. It may not be her co-workers that are the problem.And thats the power of Emotional Intelligence. If you are the problem, you are also the solution, and Emotional Intelligence is the bridge between the two.

How Do You Learn To Dance?

by

Kevin KS

There is much confusion amongst the general public about how you can learn to dance. It seems that everyone wants to learn to dance. How many people when you ask them the things that they would like to learn

one day

mention dancing? From my experience pretty much everyone. But how many people go through the effort to learn?

There is a myth out there that all dancers were born with the gift of dancing. My take on that is this: all dancers were born with the gift of dancing, and we were all given that gift! There are those who seemed to just drop out of their mother’s womb dancing. However don’t let the tears well up if this is not you, there is a dancer in everyone and it is something that can be unearthed. The baby dancing on arrival in the world is a good analogy. A baby probably won’t be able to talk for the first few years of its life. Then the words come out one by one, then sentences, and then absurdities on arrival of the teenage years. If I told you that I knew a 5 year old who could talk, would your face transform into an expression of surprise? (I’m hoping you answered ‘no’). You give a baby as long as it needs to learn to talk or walk because you know that it will learn. With dancing it is just the same, it may seem unnatural at first, but with a bit of practice you can dance pretty well. And it won’t take you as long as it took you to learn to talk! The transition from walking and moving about normally into dancing is not as huge as it is made up to be. It is a case of making certain simple movements gestures, linking them up in interesting ways and making it look good! Of course when it comes to learning routines and choreography, that’s another skill in and of itself! So what’s the answer to the golden question? How do you learn to dance? Well there are many ways. You could learn by copying your favourite artists such as Janet Jackson, Usher or J.Lo and studying their music videos. In fact, this is the way famous MTV choreographer Wade Robson learnt to dance. If you are naturally a good dancer, this could be a good approach. Another way you could learn is to make friends with people who are good dancers and either copy them or try and get them to show you how to do a few of their moves. This is great, especially if you spend a lot of time with these friends. The easiest way you can learn to dance is to join a dance class. There will usually be at least a couple of these in your area, maybe even a dance studio offering a variety of different classes from different teachers. If you are not naturally a dancer, joining a dance class or series of classes is probably the best option for you. Even if you can dance and learnt on your own, there are still plenty of things you can learn from joining a dance class. If you are at all serious about dancing as a profession, you should DEFINITELY be going to classes unless you are privileged enough to be the son/ daughter of a talented dancer or have lots of great contacts/ dancer friends. The good thing about dance classes is that they are usually grouped into rough ability levels so if you are a beginner you can find a class at your level until you get better. Even so, it can feel as if you are throwing yourself in at the deep end when you begin, but nonetheless, just like you did with the walking and talking, STICK AT IT. You will get better. As you go to more and more classes, you will start to build up the pieces of the puzzle of that style and soon you’ll be dancing more confidently. The important thing (and I’m not just copying someone’s words) is that you enjoy yourself regardless of your standard. It may seem difficult to comprehend (or maybe not) but the people who get good are usually the people who enjoy their dancing the most, even when they did have 2 left feet! Of course, be self-aware where you need to improve and work at it, but by all means, ABSOLUTELY NOT do not beat yourself up. If you need help, concentrate on the music in class and try and enjoy that! If I were to give out one piece of advice (this changes with time, but here’s my favourite advice I’m dishing out at the moment), it would be…..to go out and dance. Now you may be saying “but I can’t dance.” You know what you need to do then! Start trying to copy what you see in dance videos and find out about dance classes you can go to. And then go to the dance classes that interest you. And then get better. And better. And better still.

Kevin KS runs the Hip Dance Moves Courses. He teaches students funky moves that are ideal for all settings including discos, clubs or the street! In just 10 weeks he can transform a complete non-dancer into a confident dancer with the funkiest demeanour. Check his website

hipdancemoves.com

for more information and to grab your hands on his free 5 part mini-course on dancing.

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Use Public Speaking to Convert Your Non-Fiction Book Into a Best-Seller

by

Nickolove Lovemore

Word of mouth is still one of the best forms of advertising irregardless of what you’re selling and it certainly works in the case of books. Just think of the number of times that you’ve read a book simply because someone recommended it to you.

And one of the best ways to generate powerful word of mouth advertising and convert your book into a best-seller is through public speaking. As book marketing expert, John Kremer, said:

“Almost every best-selling self-help and spiritual author over the past 20 years has become a best-selling author because they spoke. They spoke at learning annexes. They spoke at churches. They spoke at different places where they could reach a large audience and start to create word of mouth [marketing].”

When you speak in public you don’t always have to give a long presentation. Your public speech can be as short as 3-5 minutes. So think about all the places where you can give presentations on topics relevant to your book and then engineer how you will speak in these places and promote your book.

When you give a powerful presentation people will want to learn more about you and will want to know more about your subject matter. A book is a low-cost option for people to extend their relationship with you. However, it can also lead people into buying other products and services from you.

Your avenues for public speaking should include online radio shows and TV. Now everyone wants to get on Oprah and certainly if you achieve this you will gain unparalleled exposure but being on Oprah is not a pre-requisite to success. There are numerous other lucrative avenues that you can tap into.

Nowadays, it’s easier than ever to create your own TV program using resources such UStreamTV. And hosting a regular program can give you massive exposure.

You can also create your own radio show on BlogTalkRadio. The great thing about creating your own online TV and radio shows is that people can listen to and or watch your shows live or they can check out a recording of your show. In other words, you can create content for your show once and have it available online 24/7 promoting you and your book.

If you do radio or TV interviews with traditional broadcasters you can generally get a copy of your interview that you can then add to your website and use it to create other promotional material. In fact, every time you speak in public you should record your presentation. You may not be happy with every presentation but, over time, you will have a large library of recordings of your presentation which you can use on your website, create videos for sites such as YouTube and Google with links back to the site where you’re promoting your book.

When speaking in public remember to research your audience. Now, although you’ll probably be presenting essentially the same material each time, you can tailor your presentation to suit the audience. For example your presentation to a group of bankers would be different from that to real estate agents.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to write a radically different presentation. You can easily adapt it to suit your target audience by perhaps using different industry-specific examples. By doing this you’ll build greater rapport with your audience. They will more readily see how what you’re presenting pertains to them and they’ll be more eager to buy your book.

And every sale you make will take you one step closer to converting your book into a best-seller.

To discover how you can turn your book specifically into an Amazon best-seller visit

Becoming An Amazon Best-Seller

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